Love. I’m all for it. I want healthy, beautiful love for every woman out there, and no, you shouldn’t feel guilty about wanting it. But here’s the thing, sis: you’re single.
Whether you’re single and healing, or single and ready to mingle, that doesn’t mean you have to sit around waiting for love to knock at your door. You’ve still got purpose, drive, and a life to live. That’s what this series is about—giving you ideas of what you could be doing as a single woman. No shame, no guilt, just encouragement.
Work on your current relationships
One of my biggest mistakes was thinking I’d show up completely different in a romantic relationship than I do in my existing relationships. Spoiler: it doesn’t work like that. In part one, I talked about building your relationship with God. The second most important relationship? Your relationship with others.
Ask yourself:
- Are you selfish?
- Do you communicate respectfully with your parents?
- How are your friendships?
- Do you make time for people?
How you handle these relationships now is a sneak peek of how you’ll handle a romantic one later.
Self-Reflection
On the note of working on stuff, I saw a quote online that I’ll probably butcher: “What’s worse than seeing the flaws in others is not seeing your own.” Self-reflection is a powerful tool. Being able to hold yourself accountable, seeing where you went wrong, learning your likes, dislikes, and boundaries—these things matter.
For example, I’ve learned that when I’m in a bad mood, I want the entire world to sense it, and preferably, leave me alone. Like, don’t even look at me too hard, lol. That’s something I’m working on. How about you? What’s one thing you could work on right now?
Solo Dates
The introvert in me steams every time I hear this. I don’t want to look crazy sitting by myself in a restaurant. “Table for one, please.” Ahhhhhh, lol. But I know that as singles, we don’t get wined and dined by a man, and our friends are not always available.
That doesn’t mean we should deny ourselves some pampering! Solo dates are great for building confidence, getting you out of your comfort zone (fellow introverts, I feel you), and giving you new experiences. Plus, you never know who you might bump into! Wink wink. Note to self: plan that solo brunch.
Learn New Skills
Learning a new skill won’t magically erase your desire for romantic love (let’s be real), but it can fill up your time in meaningful ways. If you’ve got extra time or are feeling a bit bored, why not invest that energy into something new?
Here are some skills you could try as a single pringle:
- Blogging or creative writing (like this blog you’re reading!)
- Photography (I even took a photography class last year—it was such a fun creative outlet).
- Journaling or designing journals ( The ones I made)
- Cooking or baking new recipes.
Singleness can get lonely, but it doesn’t have to be boring
Alright, girl, go out there and be great! Remember: the way you show up in your current relationships matters,Self-reflection is a powerful tool, you can wine and dine yourself, and being a single woman doesn’t mean you need to suffer from boredom.
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